It has been quite a trek, this business of figuring out my identity. Trying to understand and cultivate who I want to be, who I want the world to know, or better yet who I want to know within myself.
We are inundated daily with messages about who we should be, what we should be, how we should present to others that it all gets so overwhelming and confusing. I struggle with understanding it all and processing it too. I want to represent myself in a respectable waybut in a way that is honest.
Part of the journey to shape my presentation has been about figuring out my personal sense of style.
Most of my clothes are timeless, re: boring and lifeless. I blame my personal sense of style on 16 years of military service. I wear the same thing day and day out, so really it is a no brainer for the most part. But there are those special occassions when I have to fancy myself up and look nice.
And that’s where the problem comes in.
I quite literally have a melt down. Every. Single. Time.
I have no clue where to start. Am I butch? Am I andro? Tomboy? Prep? Where do I start? Women’s clothes are far too feminine for my taste. And often men’s clothes end up being the wrong cut. Either too narrow or waaaaaay too boxy. Regardless, I almost always end up shopping in the men’s department and settling for clothes that just don’t help me present the image I want to show to the world.
I realize I am not a dude, that goes without saying. No need to go into that gendered mine field of a discussion here. But I feel more comfortable in men’s clothes. But thankfully, there are women, like myself, with the same problem AND a knack for fashion. And thankfully those women have created online retail stores for people like me. Read all about it here.
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/11/fashion/a-masculine-silhouette-tailored-for-her.html?_r=2&
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